Change

Upon perusing my past posts, and thinking in depth about my starting crafts, quitting crafts, baking, not baking, self helpy annoying posts, it is inherently apparent that I need a bit of a writing break, thinking break, break from my brain.

People start stuff and don’t stick it out all of the time …and the truth is – who cares! Nobody. It’s not even worth talking about.

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This was going to be a plastic bottle to decorate. We didn’t decorate a ton more…and like I said, it’s really not that important!

I don’t need to tell anyone that I am stopping something or starting something…it’s not like Jennifer Aniston made an announcement that she was stopping following the Zone diet, remember that one? Or that Jillian Michaels broke down, stopped exercising for a week, and stuffed her face full of chocolates…maybe this happened …but we’ll never know and it really doesn’t matter!

Now if the Pope became Jewish, that would be important. But I’m not the Pope. I’m just a gal with a blog who over shared and I would like to keep a few things in the vault from now on.

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In fact, I will be looking through old posts and deleting a few eye rolling ones, as I choke on embarrassment, thinking of my friends reading these…you know the ones…the “I QUIT” posts.

This blog is movin on up…or rather out of the therapists chair! Well, me, that is…

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With that being said, I am broadening the scope of ideas and adding to our reading fun…I will be having guest writers…coming soon to the girlyreports….I know I have promised this in the past and these people never materialized for one reason or another…just the way life goes…but I have a couple definite women writing soon and I can’t wait!

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Find ladies that make you laugh, feel alive…

“Let me ask you a question,” I asked my friend, a mom of three…I was lakeside with a friend, absolutely enjoying her company while our husbands and kids played in the water.

The question was completely irrelevant to this post (it was about advice if I should join the gym because the childcare center at the gym seemed so small and crowded). She was like, “Jill, do you remember the size of rooms from when your were three or four?”

She made a great point and I did end up joining a gym…and it’s been great…actually pretty fabulous, and what a break for mommy! I can stroll on the treadmill, since I’m not exactly in top form these days, and when I pick the girls up, they are so happy. Luckily, they have each other so I don’t feel completely worried…I don’t even care if I get in great shape, it’s just such a nice “me time” for 45 minutes or so…I might not have joined if it wasn’t for a few wise friends.

So my point is thank you to my friend and all of my other girl friends who encouraged me to take this step… And thank you to my girlfriends who just make me feel supported, normal, and just like them.

Women, mommies, and wives- we need to be with each other, ( I think that came out wrong – not sexually of course) share thoughts and ideas with one another and mostly, be real and honest, so we don’t feel alone.

AVOID THE ANCHORS

Anchors are women that are more of a sinker, rather than a floater. You leave a play date or event and feel worse, depleted, kind of an underwater feeling. Spend time with women who make you feel you are ok, relaxed and floating (nothing wrong with a glass or wine or two to float along with as well).

Then there are women who just don’t do it for ya. You’re not laughing, you’re not sharing feelings without being judged, you’re feeling less than, or you feel like getting together is more of an obligation.

Avoid these ladies like the plague ( I’m sure we can all think of someone like this or slightly like this in their heads- hell, maybe, I’m one of these women, in that case – avoid me! I promise I won’t be offended.)

Nothing worse than hanging with a woman who stares at you blankly, has nothing to say to support you but makes you feel more alone, less than, inadequate, or the worst feeling of all -BORED… Bored with their incessant drone of what they have, what their kids have, how they want to do something but don’t do it … Or maybe they just are boring!

Run from them. Find ladies that make you laugh, feel alive, are bouncing boards for ideas, and basically make you feel completely normal.

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If I was a self help book I’d throw myself over a cliff

“Moving towards balance…letting go, quitting sweets, quitting baking, getting over people pleasing, going to start taking care of myself, exercising, accepting my body, slowing down…blah, blah, blah….I truly feel like if I was a self help book, I would throw myself over the cliff.

None of this crappolla is important, really. Its utter crap, it’s not positive, funny, or real.

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It’s like I am addicted to proclamations. It’s probably America – we’re obsessed with life change, makeovers, transformations, and success stories…pick up any magazine and it always features happy people touting their latest life change or decision to live a different life…I’m not completely knocking these inspirational type of stories…it’s just the more we hear about Jane quitting her job, starting the business of her dreams, losing 20 pounds, giving up gluten, and practicing yoga…you start to kind of think – well, maybe Jane has all the answers. She just looks so freakin happy…

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This sort of thing has always sucked me in… Any kind of a change, seemed dramatic, exciting, challenging, and the answer to me being stuck in a rut.

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The title says secrets to being happy from the Inside out…that sounds like you just have to read it, right?

When something doesn’t feel right, or I am feeling something I don’t want to be feeling, like frustration, unhappiness, disillusionment, sadness, or just boredom, I make some major proclamation. Instead of just owning the feeling. I think that’s what addicts do, right?

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This one promises me to get a life that doesn’t suck! Woo hoo

For example, the baking… I baked a lot for the past two years. And then, just recently, I simply didn’t feel like it. I didn’t really have a clear explanation. I just had no desire to get out the bowls and the flour. When I think about this rationally, it was probably just me being tired and busy with the regular hectic life of a mom of little ones.

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Not a lick of make up- dirty hair- and chipped nail polish – that’s pretty brave of me to show this gross pic that Gia snapped of me.

How about I just write/ speak about my true feelings… Like “Hey everyone, I am in a funk. I’m tired, I’m probably going to bring you some munchkins today, because the thought of baking is truly exhausting… But maybe I’ll feel like whipping up some blondies in a couple of weeks, or maybe not! ”

Or ” I am just not feeling my cutest, can we just hang out in our sweats and drink wine and eat pizza? ”

I officially quit proclamations.

Life is full of enough interesting things to read about/talk about right? Like the fact that Arianna pooped on the bathroom floor at the library yesterday and tried to pick it up.

Eeewwww! I don’t know how this happened. She has been using the potty regularly now for a while.

But that’s life. And I think we would all rather read about that, wouldn’t we?


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